Just like me, two of my friends got to be parents thanks to egg donation and gestational surrogacy. There is a special place in my heart for the both of them. One of them actually had a similar timeline as my journey. Her daughter was born 3.5 months after my twins were born. I remember meeting up with her a few weeks before her daughter was born to pass on a bunch of newborn clothes to her. She got to meet my twin babies. When the babies were little, we were too busy taking care of them and didn’t try to meet up. She writes me once in a while especially when it comes to talking about feelings of having used donor eggs and a gestational carrier. When she told me that her young daughter told her that she wished that her mom was the one who had carried her, I teared up as the sentiment hit close to home. We share a bond because of our special fertility journeys. My twins and her girl were supposed to meet up for a play date in March 2020. We all know what happened then. Fast forward 1.5 years. The kids finally met up in October for the first time. My kids and my friend’s daughter became instant friends. We visited the zoo together, looked at animals, rode the train, had lunch, and played at the playground. The kids all got along really well and played with one another like they have known one another for a long time. We met up again this past weekend going on a miniature train ride at a park. The kids were running around with each other having a great time. They had group hugs several times too. After the visit, the twins constantly talked about their little friend and told me how much fun they had. When I look at the pictures of them hugging one another, my heart melts. Somehow they share a special bond. It is so beautiful to see that the friendship between me and my friend has now extended to our next generation. I think about all the heartaches that the both of us had and how long and how twisted our roads were. The two people who didn’t know whether we’d become mothers have the privilege to see our children play together. This is something that I will never take for granted.
In Quest of a Binky Moongee 