I have a huge task list staring at my face whenever I look at my Gmail.
There seems to be ten thousand things to do before our babies arrive. Although I am not the one carrying so my fatigue has nothing to do with pregnancy, looking at the list is still overwhelming to me and makes me want to hide under the cover and take a nap.
But then, I realize I have to put on my big girl panties and get to the tasks. I am proud to say that I am slowly tackling the list.
First up was booking a photographer. My original idea was a maternity photo shoot around 28 weeks with Annie, her family, me, and Bob. My first choice would have been my pastor’s wife who is a professional photographer. However, she will not be available around our preferred time plus the cost would skyrocket with flying her there. She helped me look at the work of photographers local to Annie and we did a lot of back and forth on FB Messenger. We finally settled on one who was super excited about capturing these moments for us…. until the whole hemorrhoid incident and anxiety attack took place. If Annie continues to be so uncomfortable, taking pictures of her might not be the best idea. I really didn’t want to spend so much money on plane tickets, accommodations, session fees for the photography, and other expenses to risk her not feeling well enough for it. Right after her anxiety attack, we decided to hold off on booking a photographer. Honestly, I was a little bummed about it because maternity photo shoot had been something that I really wanted to do. But it’s okay. I’ll live. I also had an idea of doing one here just me and Bob and two pairs of baby booties. Since there is no time limit on it, we can do it anytime, so there is no pressure in booking a session any time soon. We are going to book that particular photographer for a photo shoot for our C-section though. So at least I can document it.
Last Friday I checked in with Annie. She had been feeling a bit better as her symptoms of both hemorrhoids and anxiety were now mild. She reported that our babies have been very active in the morning and the evening, kicking and moving around. I told her that I wished I could feel the movements by touching her tummy, but I don’t know when I would make it there. If I go early to help her out before birth, then I’d spend time with her prior to the babies’ arrival. She was surprised that we weren’t going to the 28 weeks ultrasound anymore. She said that if things continue to be better, she should be okay with the maternity photo shoot. This conversation reignited my hope of getting the maternity photo shoot done. However, after chatting with Bob, it seems wiser to just stay put and put the money towards other things as it is very expensive to fly the both of us over each time. I am so glad that Annie is feeling better though. I hope that her hemorrhoids don’t come back so she’ll continue to be more comfortable. Poor girl, she can’t sit on her bottom and has to sit on her thighs.
The baby shower was next on the list. My sister-in-law and my pastor’s wife are hosting. They live across from each other so they’ll see who will host depending on the size of the party. After a lot of thinking, we decided on a shower at around 31 weeks. That will be right after our Hawaii “babymoon”. I hope that our babies stay put until after that. I owe my SIL a list of guest and a baby registry. She can’t send out an invitation without these two things. I don’t know why but I find the guest list difficult to put together. Should it be girls only or co-ed? How many people is too many people? If we make it girls only, will Bob’s and my guy friends feel left out? Should we include kids? Babies? I don’t plan on having games, so maybe co-ed is okay. I was told that guys hate baby showers, but this is hardly a conventional baby shower. So maybe it’s okay to have the guys around?
And then there is this whole thing about where to register. Like I said before, we don’t have a Buy Buy Baby around us. We have a Target and Babies R Us close by. I am tempted to just do Amazon and one of the two brick and mortar stores, but I don’t know what is better. My friend Jo said that Bed, Bath, and Beyond (and Buy Buy Baby) has the best return policy, which is 365 days. She buys her big ticket items there and returns them at the store. That, to me, beats returning things online. So I have been very indecisive on which site to register at. And then I also have to decide on what to register. There are just too many choices out there and I feel overwhelmed every single time I look at the list. Isn’t registering for baby items supposed to be the fun part of this process? All I feel is stress, which is not good. But yeah, I will have to get something started very soon so we can send out the invitation for the shower.
Next up on the list was window treatments. After our house remodel 4.5 years ago, I lost steam and never did our window treatments. Our babies’ arrival is a good motivator for me to get my act together. A few weeks ago, a local company that has very good reviews never returned my call. So I contacted another company whose owner promptly showed up at my door at the appointed time. Within an hour, she showed me what might work for the windows in our various rooms and had me choose the styles, colors, pleat size, and light control options. I was kind of forced into picking the colors and styles, which might be good for me, as I am so indecisive about these things. Roller shades vs. roman shades vs. cellular shades. Beige vs. brighter vs. grey. Room-darkening vs. blackout vs. light filtering. Bottom up only vs. top down as well. Again. So many choices. My mom quickly made her decision, which helped me in choosing mine. Without choosing the colors/style, I’d never be able to get an accurate estimate. I just received the quote for the shades, which is within my expectation. Window dressing the whole house is an expensive endeavor, so that kind of seals the deal for not traveling to Annie’s town for the 28 week ultrasound.
Clearing our the spare bedroom that will become our “nursery” is the next thing we need to do. This room has become the dumping ground for miscellaneous, and it also houses our book cases, leftover fertility meds and full sharps containers, toilet papers and paper towels, and a twin mattress. In order to fix this room, we had to first clear out the garage. Since we remodeled 4.5 years ago and moved back in, we have put all the things that we didn’t need in the garage. Over the years, the pile had gotten bigger and bigger, and it all felt like a big black hole. Without cleaning this mess, I couldn’t possibly allow myself to add the content of the spare bedroom to the mix. Last Saturday, we got to work and started moving things into piles: donate, sell, electronic waste, recycle, and trash. We also moved all of the baby stuff that my friend gave me into the living room. These boxes have been hiding in this garage for the last 4.5 years. I am so glad that they get to see the light of day. I also finally cleaned out my 200000 pairs of shoes and only kept those that I will really wear. It was a monumental task to part with my shoes but I was proud of myself for making the cut. I will not get into details, but let me just say that Bob and I didn’t see eye-to-eye on the method of cleaning things out. This difference in opinion led to a huge fight, and the exhaustion from cleaning made it worse. Despite this unnecessary fight, we made headway in the garage and cleaned out more than half of the stuff in there. It is not totally done but we are both proud of the work that we have done so far. Hopefully after we’re completely done with the garage, we can start packing up the things in the spare bedroom and make ways for baby stuff.
On the list, there is also choosing a pediatrician, registering/attending baby classes, buying a car, and on and on and on. When I get overwhelmed, Bob always says that he is confident that we will get everything done. So there is no need to panic. I will have to remember to take it one day at a time. Hopefully we’ll be ready by the time the babies make their way into this world.