A friend of mine who made her embryos with donor eggs back in January 2018 had had one obstacle after another trying to find a gestational carrier that would work with her. She had to switch a few agencies in a few states and several gestational carriers who failed the screening. After three whole years having those embryos, she finally found a gestational carrier who passed her medical screening. Fortunately, the gestational carrier lives in our state so she was allowed to transfer in my friend’s clinic (vs. those from other states who would not be approved by many clinics due to the pandemic). The beta is scheduled for today, but her GC already did a home pregnancy test which was positive! I am so excited for her and am very hopeful that she will be able to hold her baby in October.
My cousin who has an 18 month old that she conceived with donor eggs is currently 14 weeks pregnant with her second. I am so so glad that she doesn’t have my kind of crappy uterus. Even though her eggs didn’t help her become a mom, her uterus is winning at being a great home for her babies.
Remember I went on a sort of babymoon in Honolulu a couple of months before the babies were born? I was going to go on a food tour after I published that post. I did go on a food tour and met this couple who sat behind me on the bus. We hung out all day long, and hit it off really well. We bumped into one another that evening buying ice cream. We discovered that we were going to fly out on the exact same flight. So on the day of departure, the wife came over to sit next to me at the gate once she spotted me. We started chatting. she asked me where my next adventure was going to be. I told her honestly that this would probably be my last trip for a while because my babies were going to be born via gestational surrogacy. Once that piece of information was shared, it was like a flood gate had opened and she shared about her journey of trying for a baby. It turned out that she and her husband had been trying for a baby for a few years, went to the same clinic that I went to (with Dr. No Nonsense), had a miscarriage and few other disappointments, and were taking a break and trying to recuperate from all the losses. We exchanged contact information and promised to speak with one another again when we got home. A chance meeting in Hawaii brought the two of us together as friends. We met up a few times for lunch. I eventually introduced her to Dr. E, my reproductive endocrinologist that helped bring our babies home. She and her husband had been with Dr. E for the last three years. They even got together with me and Bob prior to the pandemic to speak about the possibility of working with a gestational carrier. They were going to try once more time with transferring into her, and she did this past year after clinics were allowed to do IVF again. Guess what? She is 31 weeks pregnant and everything is going well. I am so happy for her and I am so honored to be part of her story. On that day when I picked that particular food tour to book and later chose that particular seat on the tour bus to sit, I never would have imagined these seemingly inconsequential choices would make an impact in someone’s reproductive endeavor. God is amazing.