MicroblogMondays: Two Types of People

After our international trip, I observed two types of people: those who love kids and those who don’t.

Majority of the people that we encountered were kid lovers.  They were so drawn to our twins.  They included my childhood friends, my college friends, my relatives, my dad’s office people, my parents’ friends, and even the cleaning lady for my dad.  They would immediately kneel down and interact with my kids.  They wanted to hold them, play with them, and talk with them.  Their faces lit up when they saw the kids.  They paid more attention to the kids than to the adults who were with the kids.  This is probably why most of the people in this world want kids and make babies.  They genuinely like kids.

Now fast forward to meeting up with my high school best friend.  She is an interesting person.  I know her really well and know her view on many things in life including wedding, marriage, and kids.  She dislikes going to weddings.  She does not believe in marriage.  And she is not interested in kids at all.  When she was in town in transit to ski in the United States, she didn’t ask to see me or to come see the kids.  When we got married, she asked for permission to not come to our wedding.  Instead, she gave us a very generous gift of a very expensive and high quality photo album from our wedding photographer.  Knowing her so well, I didn’t mind her not attending our wedding and in exchange we have a really nice photo album to cherish forever.  It was a win-win situation.  I knew that she was traveling in the beginning our our trip.  I contacted her again when we got back to my hometown to see if we could get together.  It seemed like it was impossible to see her there, but she happened to be flying out around the same time as us on the same day.  We made plans to meet at the airport for a meal.

It was hectic to get into the airport (because of heightened security) as well as to go through the check-in process with twin toddlers in tow and ten thousand pieces of luggage.  We finally got to the food court area where my friend came to meet us.  It was actually quite interesting to see her reaction to the kids.  She had no intention in standing anywhere close to them.  The kids were watching a video and eating their lunch.  I was sitting next to them giving them food.  My friend came and stood on the other side of me and didn’t really ask anything about the kids.  We asked the kids to say Hi to auntie which they pleasantly complied.  My friend went on to chat with me about things and didn’t really say anything to the kids.  Towards the end, Bunny walked over to give my friend a hug which surprised my friend a great deal.  I could tell that her body froze up a little and she didn’t know how to react.  I said, “Bunny wanted to give you a hug goodbye,” to which my friend said, “Aww how nice.”  Hahaha.  I told her the kids’ names, but I am still not sure if she remembers them.

This doesn’t surprise me, but it is just so interesting for me to see how a person who genuinely has no interest in children interacts (or doesn’t interact) with my kids.  It was just such a big contrast to the majority of the people that we met on our trip who were so drawn to the twins it was just so obvious to see the difference.  I don’t mind it either way.  It just made a pretty big impression on me that not the whole world is into kids. It is not because they have had past hurts, or they want to avoid kids because they are childfree not by choice.  They just do not want kids, like kids, or want to have anything to do with kids.  My friend is a very good example.

3 thoughts on “MicroblogMondays: Two Types of People

  1. I have a lot of friends who are child-free by choice and they’ve told me the thing that pleases them the most is when their friends respect their choices rather than make comments like “You’ll feel differently when you get older,” or “who will take care of you when you’re old,” or “you’re so young; you’ll change your mind.” or any similar dismissive remark. I’m glad you were able to respect and honor your friend and her preferences.

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  2. Hmm interesting! She seems not just not interested but turned off by them. With my psychology background, I can’t help but wonder about her thoughts/feelings and life experiences. Seems there might be a little something more there than just disinterest.

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