Last Wednesday I turned 45.
It seems like it wasn’t too long ago when Bob and I met, dated, got married, and tried for kids. You blink, and I am at an age when I thought my kids would be at least teenagers. My friends who got married and had kids early now have high schoolers and college-aged kids. My kids are not even two yet. The number 45 feels old because next year at 46 things seem to go downhill with approaching late 40s and becoming 50. When I am 50, my kids are only going to be 6, almost 7.
Anyways, these thoughts about my age didn’t stop me from enjoying my birthday. When I was still snuggling my pillow in my warm blanket, Bob was already up and walking around. Later, he put something on my head. I opened my eyes and grabbed whatever it was. He gave me a birthday card from the kids and another one from him. I love these cards! The one from the kids is really cute, and the one from him says these really sweet things about me and us. The cards started my day right. Bunny and Okra have been kind of into birthdays and singing birthday songs. So on that day my mom led them to say happy birthday and sing to me several times. It is so cute that the kids are now talking and can say many things that are mostly clear, including happy birthday. This is vastly different from a year ago when they were only 9 months. The rest of the day was low key, with me taking the kids to get my favorite coffee, my mom taking me out to a yummy Burmese lunch, and dinner out with my husband to get a nice bowl of udon at our favorite udon place. Only the two of us having an adult conversation.
You know the best thing that happened on that day? The kids did not throw one single tantrum or have any meltdowns on that day. ALL. DAY. LONG.
Wow you know how much of a miracle that was considering the kind of tantrums and meltdowns they have these days? They were SOOOO pleasant all day long. Even prime time for tantrums like right after nap was filled with laughters and happy chatting. I was so impressed that it was like they almost knew that they had to give mommy a pleasant birthday.
Well, the next day was definitely payback time. Tantrums were nonstop from breakfast time until bedtime. The two of them took turns having meltdowns about everything under the sun, and sometimes you don’t even know why they were having a hard time. It was like they exploded after not getting upset for a day. My fellow twin mom friend said, “At least they kept it together for your birthday itself. Much more than that would be too much to ask.” I completely agree with her.
The highlight of this birthday was returning to our favorite steak house on Saturday for our prime rib dinner. This place has gotten harder to make a reservation in the last few years. We tried to make one for Bob’s birthday in February. When it didn’t work out, we booked it for my birthday instead. So we had had our reservation for five months! The dinner did not disappoint. It was lovely to again sit and have adult conversation while eating yummy food. I was supposed to have a glass of white wine after my lemon drop, but I am so light weight now that one cocktail did me in. That was okay though. I didn’t need to drink another glass of wine to feel celebratory. The dinner and the company were perfect.
This was how I celebrated being 45. It was perfect for me. We will see how 46 feels next year.