MicroblogMondays: Where Did the Babies Go?

I have 16-month-olds.

To me, that’s mind boggling.  Where did the time go?  Where did the babies go?  You blink and they are now full-blown toddlers.  They can walk, run, climb up stairs, climb on the couch, climb down the couch, climb up on a slide and slide down.  They eat, throw food, have preferences, throw tantrums, play hide and seek, and hide toys from their sibling.  They have a sense of humor.  When did that happen?

It amazes me that not too long ago, we were yearning for a child.  You blink, and we are now responsible for two human beings that need love, care, and parenting.

After our gestational carrier had her chemical pregnancy, my heart was full of doubt because I didn’t know if the remaining three embryos would become a baby for us or not.  My friend A. encouraged me by telling me that things don’t change until they change.  And that was right.  That was over two years ago.  The next transfer gave us these two kids that are meant to be in our family.  One of my girlfriends has been trying to create embryos with her own eggs for a number of years and is still struggling with the idea of egg donation if none of the embryos from her own eggs worked.  I share with her over and over again that I would never trade my kids with a child that shares my genes.  These are mine and mine forever.  I don’t want anyone else.

Some days I look at them and still cannot believe that we are so blessed to be parents of these two.

Please do not grow up too fast.


6 thoughts on “MicroblogMondays: Where Did the Babies Go?

  1. I think many people feel a stigma not using their own genetic material. And it’s worse in some cultures than others (especially various Asian cultures). Even with adoption, there are STILL people who hide it from their kids. My parents know a couple whose son found his paperwork as an adult and was very upset. We all knew and thought he did, as it’s normal to tell children now. But nope…apparently they did not. This wasn’t decades ago. This was in the past few years. The “kid” in question is in his 20s. Because of my health issues, we accepted many, many years ago that any kids I have would not be genetically related to me, so at least my parents are fine with it. Not sure about my extended family – those in Hong Kong, anyway. The Canadian ones, who were either born here or are very integrated, are fine with it.


  2. Oh wow, adorable toddlers not babies! Time is flying.

    The whole issue of donor eggs/sperm is different for everyone, I’m sure. I’m glad you are such a good example to your friend, but clearly she (and/or her partner) has some reservations. And so it may not be right for her, even though it has been so perfect for you.


    • You are absolutely right. That’s why I don’t ever tell her what she should or should not do. Whenever she asks me about how I feel about my kids, I tell her exactly how I feel. Everyone has to make their own decisions, right?


  3. It goes so fast! 😭 Just yesterday I was watching M and V on the playground and looking at them as full blown kids, not toddlers or preschoolers any more. 😭 These years are so hard but wonderful too.


  4. Aw, they are definitely not babies any longer, but they’re every bit as precious! I guess things have reached the ‘change’ part, but hopefully in the good way of giving you new experiences with them and new joys as they grow!


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