Some of you will be proud of me, that I did a whole lot this past week preparing for the babies.
My friend A. was so right. (Man, she is ALWAYS the wise one.) When I talked to her about my fear of starting the baby registry last week, she said that I seemed like a college kid looking at a blank screen who couldn’t get through the first sentence. That was such a great description. I felt exactly that way. She made a great suggestion. She told me to go with a girlfriend to a store and do the point and shoot scanner thing and just have fun. And she added, grab lunch beforehand and have some rose too. 😀
I took her advice. Lunch and rose didn’t happen, but my Dear Colleague met up with me one afternoon at Babies R Us (because Buy Buy Baby’s opening in our area won’t be until September). The staff member who helped me was super helpful and nice (unlike what I read on some reviews of that particular store location). With the scanner in hand, Dear Colleague and I walked around the shop feeling overwhelmed. Well, I don’t know about her, but I was overwhelmed. We walked around looking at many things. The bottles section was particularly dizzying. After about 15 minutes, we decided that we needed to just scan something symbolically as the beginning of this process. So we stood in front of the health section, picked up a thermometer, and pointed the scanner at the barcode. Done. First item registered. This process officially started.
I actually didn’t like the selections at BRU. I mean, it has more things than Tar.get probably, but there were still many things that it didn’t have. After my Dear Colleague left for her dinner date, I walked around by myself still feeling a bit overwhelmed, wondering how many of each thing to buy and wishing that I had my laptop there to check reviews and tips/lists given by my friends who are moms of twins. It was nice to touch and lift certain things that I had done research on, like car seats and playards. The infant car seat was the first thing that I ever looked at because I knew we needed one (now two) to bring our baby(ies) home. Seeing a variety in person helped me make a decision. What surprised me was the size of all these playards. They are so so big! I just don’t see how one can fit nicely in our bedroom as bassinets for the initial few months with the babies. I still need to find a sleep solution for the twins before we transfer them to cribs. Another helpful thing was touching and lifting some of the diaper bags out there. Some of them are so heavy! This experience definitely helped me eliminate some of the choices out there.
I finally scanned about eight things before I walked out of the store exhausted. This is definitely a work in progress. I am proud of myself for finally getting it started.
Over the weekend, I was also agonizing over the guest list for the baby shower. Space was a concern of mine, as I didn’t want to burden the hosts with so many people. However, this is not going to be a traditional baby shower. It is going to be more like a celebration of our journey to our babies. Including Bob and our guy friends is very important to me. My sister-in-law and I had a talk. She said the most important thing was for me to give her and our pastor’s wife (who is the co-host) the list of people I would like to invite and they’d figure out the rest. After working hard on it one evening, I submitted a list of people we would invite, people we would love to invite, and people who are out of town or know that they won’t be available. Bless my pastor’s wife’s heart. This is her email:
“I say we invite them all :). We can totally be like sardines and it will be great. I think people may or may not bring kids. If I were invited to a baby shower I would naturally not want to bring my kids, haha! If all 80 people showed up it could get crazy, but that just means you get more presents. Am I being a little too ambitious, ha?”
To clarify, I am not inviting 80 people. But the list does look big. I am sure that not everyone would come. I am thankful for someone who is willing to accommodate all of our friends and family. But yeah! This was something that I struggled to get done, and I am so relieved that they have the list now! One more thing to cross off the list.
Bob and I continued to clean out the garage to a point where we could move some of the stuff from the second bedroom to downstairs. Now that these miscellaneous things are out of the second bedroom, we can better visualize it as our nursery and think about where the cribs and dresser will go.
Not only did we make progress, Annie did also. She seemed to be doing better these past couple of days. For the first time in a long time, she answered “I’m good” when I asked her how she was doing. She had been saying “I’m okay” for the longest time. And she asked me about me more so than the last couple of weeks. I feel like she is slowly coming out of her shell of the agony over the last few weeks with the physical and emotional ailments. I am so thankful that she is doing better.
As we are approaching mid-June, all of us seem to be making good progress. Only three more months before babies arrive. Or as Bob puts it, we have gone from triple-digit in days (over 100) to double-digit in days before our scheduled C-section. Things are getting exciting over here. 🙂