Bob and I had been talking about taking a trip somewhere for the Fourth of July weekend. One of the choices was to drive up north for about ten hours to visit with my friend Chloe and her family. After the little incident between me and Chloe, I don’t feel ready to spend a few days with her. I have this instinct to guard my heart and to protect myself from any more insensitive or hurtful comments, although I know that Chloe will be extra careful with me when it comes to talking about my fertility. Still, I don’t want to risk it, especially at around the time when we expect to be in the middle of a egg donation cycle. Plus, after all that we have endured in the past nine months, Bob really wants to have something to look forward to. I do too. We still have to live life, right? Bob’s first love is trains. He talks about trains on a daily basis. He has been wanting to take an overnight train ride somewhere in the country. Sometimes when Bob cuddles with me at night, he would ask me what train we are pretending to be taking. I would often say “a train to Chicago”. He would slightly shake his body and make quiet train sounds while we fall asleep. I really want to make him happy and to thank him for being there with me on this life journey. I checked the Amtrak fare for California Zephyr that runs from San Francisco to Chicago. After doing some calculations, riding a train on July 4th is cheaper than any other days around that time. I originally hesitated booking because of the unknown timing of a DE cycle. However, living life is more important. If a DE cycle happens to be around that time, it can wait. I am done holding off our life because of infertility. The whole train ride will be over 51 hours. A roomette was our original plan since it contains bunk beds. However, after I saw that a bedroom has a lot of extra space, a possibility for two people to sleep in the lower berth, and its own in-room shower and sink, I was sold. It costs a lot more money to book the bedroom. But I figured that a train journey is an attraction in itself. So the extra money is worth it. All the meals are included. There is no wifi on the train, and the cell phone reception is reportedly spotty. I guess we really have to interact with each other in these 51 + hours. Haha. It’ll be good for our relationship. Free of unnecessary distractions. We’ll spend a week there and fly back on July 11th. That means that I’ll celebrate my birthday there in Chicago! One of my best friends lives there so we’ll be spending a lot of time with him and his family. AND, one of my best online friends lives a few hours away so we may have a chance to finally meet up!
I shared the news with Chloe, who, although was super bummed about not seeing us in July, took it really well and was excited for us.
We are so excited about the trip. It’s important to build memory as a couple, especially something more fun and memorable than our IVF cycles.
Three more months. Can’t wait!