I knew that my one year blogoversary was coming up. I knew that I wanted to write something on the day. The weekend came and the weekend was gone. I woke up groggy and did not go to boot camp. I was not completely myself and forgot. WordPress then reminded me that I started blogging one year ago.
A year ago, on a Sunday afternoon, after lurking and stalking everyone in the blog world for a couple of years, I felt the urge to have my own space, to talk about my own journey, to comment on other people’s blogs, and to make connections with those who might know what I was going through and how I felt. I didn’t know what to expect and didn’t think anyone would be interested in what I wanted to say.
And then I found all of you. Or you found me. Whichever way it was, that afternoon, the little voice in my head and the little fire in my heart helped me make one of the best decisions I have ever made in my life.
So I just want to share my sincere appreciation for all of you who have read my words, commented on my posts, given me advice, listened to my rants, cheered for my successes, mourned my losses, prayed with me and for me, walked side by side with me on the worst day of my life, and encouraged me to pick myself up and try again.
I know I would’ve survived the last year without this blog, but my quality of life would’ve been so much worse. And because of you continuing to read and comment, it motivates me to continue to document my journey because I feel like it will matter to someone out there.
A year ago, we were about to embark on our IVF journey at the end of the month. I was wondering how Bob’s and my life would be different if I had lasted a year writing this blog. I was imagining being pregnant or about to be giving birth. I was being positive and thinking positive.
Fast forward a year. We are not pregnant. We don’t have a baby in our arms. So did we not gain something in this past year?
I have definitely made gains this past year. Intellectually, I know my situation and I understand it a lot more than one year ago. I know that the diagnosis of diminished ovarian reserve is no joke. It’s a cruel diagnosis. Even the most advance technology in the reproductive science field cannot help with many cases like mine. I know how I respond to meds. I know it doesn’t matter high stims or low stims. I get one embryo. Or no embryos at all. I didn’t have this knowledge last year. I was anxious to try and was hoping that my body would be against the odds. A year has passed and I just know that I am no different from the majority of the women with DOR. It’s good to know, so we can have closure and move onto the next step. It’s good to learn about your own individual case and be realistic about the odds. I have a clearer direction as to the path that may lead to a forever baby for us rather than how we were one year ago, hoping to be one of the lucky ladies that proved “It only takes one”. I am a lot more open to egg donation and am seriously considering the possibility of it if trying with our own eggs doesn’t work in the end. So yes. I am better off than a year ago.
Spiritually, I’ve also learned that God is in control. Not the doctors. Not myself. God is. Everything is in God’s timing. Even though I am not pregnant yet and don’t have a baby yet, God is the one who makes the supernatural possible. Yes, I believe that the supernatural needs to happen for me to have a baby. And I have seen numerous times in the past year that the supernatural and miracles do happen. I am looking at all of my DOR blog friends who are pregnant or even have given birth. You know who you are. I feel tremendous joy for you that miracles have happened. There is hope for the supernatural to happen in our household here. In what or whom am I putting my trust and hope? My answer is God. Even through my loss and the darkest time in my life, the Lord came through and lifted me up. He has shown me repeatedly that He is there to wipe my tears and pick up my broken pieces. For that, I am grateful that my eyes are open to the Lord that has always been there for me.
I am also grateful that I have not become more bitter. In fact, I am getting slowly better with being around pregnant women, hearing baby news, and holding newborn babies. I am in general feeling more liberated than one year ago. In about a week, I am about to attend a baby shower and a baby party. I can’t tell you the last time I went to one of either. But I am going to try. And I think I will be okay. So I feel that I have matured in the past year. Do I still feel jealous at times? You bet you. Am I being able to come out of it and go back to being okay? I can confidently say Yes. So this is the blessing that God has granted me after so many months of prayers.
There are still so many unknowns in the future. One thing I know is that I will continue blogging. This space has given me the kind of connection that I can’t find anywhere else. I want to write and I want to update you on what’s going on with me. I hope I will continue to have a voice in this space in a year’s time to write a post about my second year blogging. And I hope that by then our little binky moongee will be growing inside me (of course without the binky yet) and will soon debut to the world. I am holding onto that hope. Maybe then the blog should be renamed “In Quest of Another Binky Moongee”.
I often think of you and the Binky Moongee. So glad to have found you in this space!!!
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Thank you! Likewise! And I am so happy for you for your little one.
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Happy Blogoversary! I’m so thankful to have connected with you on this journey! You are such a great woman of faith and I admire you 🙂 xo
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Thank you so much! YOU are a great woman of faith. I have learned so much from you. I am very thankful to have found your blog!
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Happy Anniversary! I am so very glad that we found each other and I’m glad that your blog has helped you during this past year and we’re here for you with every next step you take!
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Thanks and love you girl! I know you will be there for me. 🙂
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Sorry you’re here, but glad for your company. XO
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Thank you so much!
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Happy Blogiversary! I am so glad to have been able to connect with you here! You are so faithful and sweet!
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Thanks Amy! And I am so happy for your little miracle!
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Happy Blogiversary! I haven’t been following for a whole year but I’m very glad I found you. xx
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I am very happy I found you too! I am hoping for a great outcome for you very very soon!
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Hey, I’m happy you started writing too! It’s been a pleasure to share the journey 🙂
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Thank you! I LOVE your writing and am always hoping to see an update from you. 😉
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Happy blog anniversary 🙂 I remember when I first read your blog many, many months ago and I’m so happy we are now virtual buddies xxx
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Thanks BB! That WAS many many months ago.. and I remember reading your posts and laughing with tears in my eyes. I just love your posts so much. I know that you’re going a very difficult time right now and I am here for you all the way. Love you girl.
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Happy Anniversary…thank you for a year of honesty, a year of trial and struggle, a year of hope lost and found. Praying for an incredible second anniversary with that miracle!
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Thanks Lauren! I am so grateful for you and for your support. And for your honesty, your trial, and coming out of this with a beautiful baby. Your story offers so much hope and shows so much of God’s grace. Thanks for following and being a great friend. I truly hope and pray that I will also have that miracle in a year!
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Love. Every. Word. Beautifully written post. Happy blogiversary! Praying that your next one sees you with a beautiful growing baby. 🙂
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Thank you for following when you’re so busy with the twins! I am praying for that miracle as well. 🙂
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Happy blog-iversary! Love this post, so well written. Praying that this time next year your posts will be about planning for the arrival of your binky moongee, whatever path God chooses for he/she to arrive! God is working on that and I will keep reading until it happens and cannot wait for that day and to read about it! 🙂
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Thank you Kandie! I hope so too. And I hope that your pregnancy is going well!
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I think that 2nd to last paragraph shows you’ve found some peace, which can be such a respite during the turmoil of IF. So glad you started blogging too!
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You’re right that I have definitely found some peace. I hope to work towards that direction of having a lot of peace. Thank you girl!
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Happy blogiversary – so thankful for you and so glad you are finding peace while waiting! Glad you joined the blog world! xoxo
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Thanks Caroline so much for your support always. 🙂
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I’m very glad that you started blogging–you’re such a supportive friend. So thank you for all that you’ve brought to my life!
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AWW thanks Maddie! I am thankful for your support as well! I can’t wait to see what will happen to you when the summer unfolds! I am waiting for your miracle. Remember how we say that we would want you to be pregnant by this coming Christmas?
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Happy blogiversary! I for one am happy you started blogging and glad to have yet another friend afloat in this crappy DOR boat. It makes things much less lonely. 🙂
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Isn’t DOR crappy? Hopefully we’re not sinking heehee. I have a feeling that you will reach the shore really really soon. 🙂
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happy blogoversary! I am really glad you blog because I am always moved by your determination and courage and honesty. Hoping along with you for that miracle ❤
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Thanks so much! And thanks for hoping with me. 🙂
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Happy Blog Anniversary! I love reading your blog, and am glad you plan to continue to write. I hope someday soon you need to change your blog title. 🙂
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Thanks girl for all the support in the past year! And taking the time to comment when you’re busy with the baby and work. Yup let’s focus on changing that blog title next year. 🙂
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I am a newish reader of your blog but recently spent a great deal of time catching up on your story here. There seems to be so few of us blogging about IVF and DOR and I really appreciate the beautiful way you’re telling your story. Thank you for sharing it with us.
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Thank you so much for coming by, reading, and commenting. 🙂 I will soon click over to your blog and check it out too.
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You are so amazing and such a testimony of strength! I will be jumping for all of the joy when your binky moongee is soundly with us, all the way from NM. Happy anniversary, honey, I am praying for you always!
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AWW thanks girl! When that happens, your little one will be jumping with you! And I am really thankful for the prayers. 🙂
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