So… What does a woman who struggles to get pregnant think about when her friend is engaged?
I don’t know about you. Lately the first thing I think about is, I hope she doesn’t try to conceive right away.
So why does it have to be always about me? I don’t know… because I am selfish? But I can’t help myself. This is a brand new thing though. I didn’t have the same thought last year. Oh maybe because we were knee deep into our fertility treatment last year that we didn’t pay attention to other people. This year, I have some room in my head to think about others, especially those friends who are getting married.
So here is the list:
One wedding in mid-April before our overseas trip. The bride is 38. I am quite sure she will try for a baby very soon.
Another wedding is in end of April. The groom is my friend and has expressed concerns of trying for a baby “so late”. He is 30 and the bride is 33.
Yet another wedding we’ll try to attend in another state. That one is in June. The bride, my friend, is in her early 30s.
Finally, my coworker who got engaged over Christmas and will get married in October. I have heard her say multiple times that she can’t wait to have a baby.
I don’t wish this struggle on anybody. Really. But I, for obvious selfish reasons, do not want any of these friends to try to conceive right after they get married. I don’t want them to struggle, but I don’t want to deal with the pain of yet another pregnancy announcement so quickly after a wedding. The best solution for me, admittedly and shamefully selfish, is for them to enjoy their newly married life for a little while before they try for a baby.
And hopefully by then, I will be rubbing my own big belly while saying congratulations to them.
Not too much to ask for??