Cautiously Optimistic

Eli is so much like Clay.  Even its progression.

Got an update this morning that Eli is now a 4 cell grade 1 embryo on day three.  Clay was too at this stage.  You can read about it here.  We were so devastated the last time it happened.  We had to make a quick decision the morning of the day three transfer if we should transfer the embryo.  I cried.  It was a very tough decision to make.  We were not prepared for it.

Today, the situation was totally the opposite.  I was at my Bible Study leaders meeting.  I was trying to be good and not check my phone for an email from Dr. E until after the  meeting was over.  There was no news when I checked the first time.  The email came about 20 minutes later.  Dr. E, like last time, gave us a choice.  The following is her email:

“It’s a 4 cell grade 1 today.  We can: a. transfer today  b. still wait and transfer it with the frozen day 5 c. transfer the day 5 frozen embryo only if this one doesn’t make it.  I’ve seen 4 cell grade 1 embryos turn into beautiful blasts.” 

Bob and I talked on the phone.  I was relieved to see that it isn’t a 3 cell grade 3 embryo like Daisy who did not survive.  It’s grade 1 just like Clay.  Just a little slow.  It would’ve been nice for it to be 5, 6, 7, or 8 cell at this point. But it is not.  We have to accept that and move on.  Bob was jumping up and down with joy.  He thinks that we still have a good chance for Eli to survive, just like what Clay did.  He’s happy that it’s a grade 1.  So our inclination is to wait until day 5, see how it grows, and put it back with Clay.

Chatted with Dr. E afterwards.  She told me that not too long ago, one of her patients had a 4 cell grade 1 on day three that turned into a 5AA blastocyst and a pregnancy.  Anything is possible.  So we as a team decided to wait and see.  We’re definitely transferring Clay.  Let’s hope that Eli continues to grow and we will have both put back without any hesitation.

Grow Eli grow!

17 thoughts on “Cautiously Optimistic

  1. Eli must be the slow but steady wins the race kind of baby 🙂 Just like Clay! My doc told me today he’s seen 8 cell transfers result in a negative result and 4 cell transfers become positive. Just because they are slow doesn’t mean they’re not good. Embryos have a mind of its own! I believe that. Especially since Eli is grade 1! He’ll get there. Just don’t want to beat Clay too much and make Clay feel bad 🙂


    • Thanks so much for the encouragement! Yup. We always joke about Clay being slow because my husband is the slow one in our relationship. The first joke that we made today was that Yup Eli is like the dad as well. I hope that you’re right. I am thrilled that Eli is grade 1. I do hope that it catches up on day 5 so he’ll be one day faster than Clay. 🙂


  2. yes grow eli grow!! Remember, our faith isn’t based upon past experiences or the experiences of others…so keep believing for th impossible! This is exciting!!!


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